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Grief/Depression III - Telling the Difference

Once, when I was seriously under and still headed down, a friend said to me, There have been times in my life when I was sad, so sad I couldn't imagine being any sadder.  But it seems that what you and others with depression are describing is a whole different level that I know nothing about.

See, that's what would be helpful, instead of, I know just how you feel.  I remember when [fill in the significant loss]...  I knew that he knew times of deep sadness, because I knew some of those times, and because he is a person is thinks and feels deeply.  And listens deeply.  Everyone should have such a friend.

It was Social Hour.  We were in a corner to protect me from all those people being social.  I leaned against a wall, because I was very tired.  I guess the wall gave me the idea.  I said, Yes, there are times I have been so sad I couldn't imagine being sadder.  It's like the sadness became a wall I could lean against, because I was so tired.  But Depression IS differen…

Grief/Depression II - Rise in Rates of Mental Illness

Are we really getting sicker?

A New York Times article, When does a broken heart become a diagnosis?sells papers with its usual technique - latch onto a fringe element and substitute good writing skills for substantive analysis.
I am all for good writing skills, and perhaps stumble in the same direction at times.  But depression is my beat.  So God willing and the brain permitting, I am going to beat this bit to the ground.  Two weeks ago I discussed three contexts for the discussion, the cost of health care, the scientific value of the DSM and the hobby horse of the author featured in the Times article.  I promised more contexts to come.
Are We Getting Sicker? - Context IV
James Wakefield's thesis is that we are turning natural human emotions, (the ones we want to get rid of, because they are unpleasant), into a diagnoses.  His beat is depression, as well, but the Times is on this bandwagon with autism and no doubt other diagnoses to come.
Well, I grant some validity to the conce…

For When Your Therapist Goes on Vacation

I have two therapists and they were both on vacation the week I got home from my mother's funeral and all those issues and all the family and all those issues.  And still on vacation the week after that!  My brother-in-law subbed - thank you, Darryl - with the following email.  I offer it as a resource for when your therapist picks a lousy time to go on vacation.

For extra entertainment value (my entertainment, anyway), I have identified which one I hear Michael telling me with >>, and which ones I hear Liz telling me with **.  One of them regularly irritates me.  I'll let you guess which one.  I have to keep both, because the double-teaming seems to help.

Wisdom Learned From the Seat of a Tractor

Your fences need to be horse-high, pig tight, and bull-strong.